Making choices that are satisfying your needs and increasing your capacity in life actually allows others to experience a better you. It's the you that beems with energy, radiates happiness, and is attractive to others.
Allow yourself to make decisions that are going to make you the best version of yourself. The one that cares about yourself so much, that your best is a daily habit. That is the version of you that others will appreciate and love for all the ways in which they benefit from your best self.
The driver is in control of the destination. Be your own driver, make your ride the best and let others enjoy the ride you are taking them on.